We Can’t Be
Abolitionist
&
Conflict Avoidant
an experiential workshop on
how to stop being conflict avoidant, cultivate accountability and engage in generative conflict & repair, to
collectively inscribe abolition on the agenda of our futures and liberation on the map of our collective body.
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Agenda
Introduction to Transformative Justice (TJ)
Why is the body central to liberation work?
What keeps us from being accountable?
Practicing embodied accountability (how to stop being conflict avoidant)
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You're signing up because you want to:
Enhance Your Professional Skills
You’re seeking to develop conflict transformation embodied practices to add to your professional toolkit, especially for navigating challenging interpersonal dynamics within your work environments
Address Conflict Avoidance in Your Organizing Spaces
You want to confront and manage conflict in organizing spaces, moving beyond your conflict avoidance to engage authentically in community work
Integrate Justice & Liberation in Conflict
You’re eager to explore how conflict can serve justice work, focusing on staying authentic while addressing the core of interpersonal and systemic issues
Develop Emotional Resilience & Communication Skills
You’re looking for tools to hold space for yourself and others during conflict, stay grounded, and use language to de-escalate conflicts and broaden perspectives
Heal Trauma and Build Safer Communities
You’re interested in learning nourishing, embodied frameworks to understand trauma in conflict and how to repair relationships while staying whole in the process
Build Confidence in Initiating Conflict
You want to learn how to initiate conflict when you’ve been harmed or feel uncomfortable, and how to avoid projecting childhood scripts or coping mechanisms onto others
Transform Conflict into Generative Spaces
You’re excited to approach conflict with love and liberation, shifting perspectives so that conflict becomes an opportunity for community growth and positive transformation
Engage with Abolitionist Practices
You want to engage in conflict while still honoring abolitionist principles, ensuring conflict doesn’t escalate in ways that undermine care, safety, or liberation. You want to have conflicts that mirror the world you long for!
Improve Personal Relationships
You’re looking for ways to practice communication and emotional resiliency in your personal life, especially in terms of honesty, vulnerability
You’re looking for ways to navigate difficult emotions like shame, frustration, and anger
Learn Sustainable Conflict Management Techniques
You’re eager to find strategies for holding conflict, embracing discomfort, and learning how to reduce harm while being accountable in difficult situations!
==> You’re seeking frameworks, tools, and practices to shift your relationship with conflict, whether in professional, organizing, personal, or community contexts, with a particular focus on healing, transformation, and liberation.
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This is where you feel stuck or blocked:
In-the-Moment Responses
You encounter difficulty in formulating immediate responses during confrontations, often leading to overthinking and regret afterward.
You struggle with balancing assertiveness with respect, fearing being perceived as "mean" or "aggressive."
Emotional Regulation & Grounding
You face emotional dysregulation, dissociation, or trauma responses (such as fawning, freezing, fleeing or dissociating) that hinder clear thinking and connection during conflict
You find it difficult to stay present and manage overwhelming emotions like anger, shame, or panic
Fear & Vulnerability
You experience fear of rejection or irreparable harm if conflict escalates, along with concerns about losing social value (being left out of the group, being alone and isolated)
You feel shame and insecurity about personal failings or being perceived as “wrong” in conflicts
You struggle with feeling safe enough to express emotions or assert boundaries
Conflict Perception & Conditioning
You’ve internalized fear of conflict as harmful or punitive, based on childhood experiences or societal conditioning (like all of us boo!)
You associate conflict with personal punishment, shame, or invalidation (because of the carceral politics our societies are built on)
Communication & Articulation
You fear being misunderstood, invalidating others' experiences, or struggling to find the "right" words
You rely on intellectual frameworks, but the truth of the matter is that over-intellectualizing your responses to conflict has led you to become great at solving everybody else’s conflict and validating everybody’s feelings… except your own (sigh!)
Shame & Self-Criticism
You hold in emotions until they fester into resentment or reactive behaviors
You struggle to balance self-accountability with self-compassion, often leaning into harsh self-criticism
Trauma & Power Dynamics
You defer to those with more power or privilege, making it difficult to assert righteous anger in inequitable dynamics
You tend to trauma dump or over-explain as coping mechanisms in intimate or power-imbalanced situations
Shifting Focus to Others
You find it difficult to focus on your own experience due to distraction by others' reactions, mutuality, or shared values, leading to chronic self-abandonment…
Registrations Open!
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When: Saturday March 28th,
5-8 pm CET
8-11 am PST
11-2pm EST
Where: ON ZOOM
Replay (+ slides) available forever!
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FAQ
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Yes ! You will be sent a recording + slides in the next 48 hours after the live. If you can not make the live, register so that you can be sent the recording.
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The best is for you to register. That way, even if you’re not present live, you will be sent the recording 2 days after the live.
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We are out of scholarships for this workshop, unfortunately ! If you’re interested in Care’s work and would like to receive a scholarship for the next workshop, subscribe to their Substack for free. They announce scholarships there early.
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